Why Do New Year’s Resolutions Fail?
New Year’s Resolutions fail most of the time.
Oh, the agony! All the work that goes into self-reflection, facing past failures and deciding to make a change. Only to experience the awkwardness of a failed attempt at making progress.
Once we suffer through the process and finally feel the faith, we tell family and friends (and maybe customers). Proudly we announce that we have a new direction and that they should hold on tight and watch us go!
The Slow Demise of a Failed Dream…..
Things go splendid day one, day two, day five (we got busy day three and four, oopsie),
Now it’s the weekend and we need a break, so day 6 and day 7, we push snooze.
Day eight arrives and we get it half done, day 9 we feel guilty about day 8, day 10 we try again but get distracted and by day 11 – well, we forgot we were supposed to do anything. When weekend two arrives we conclude that the direction was not the right one after all because of our very busy schedules.
Guess who will finish 2019 the same or even worse than 2018 – you, that’s who. And me too. UNLESS we get it right and dump the resolutions.
What is wrong with me?
I hear this from coaching clients constantly. What is wrong with me? Nothing.
What is wrong is the system you are using for progress.
Perhaps the word “resolute” is the key to our investigation.
To be resolute we need to have a determination that leads us into the fiercest storm without budging. We may feel fear, but fear becomes fuel for action.
This all sounds great, but reality looks quite different. If you begin
but your neuro-programming does not recognize it as familiar and or safe, you will self-sabotage.
You may feel:
- Far too busy
We do habits
This is the key you are looking for! WE DO HABITS
We do what is habitual. And if your resolution runs smack dab into your habit, you are hooped! Your inner mind, the subconscious or hidden mind will sabotage your efforts.
Thus, New Year Resolutions that are doomed by the end of Jan 12th!
The Comfort Zone
Your brain will use these tricks to keep you in what we all familiarize as “the comfort zone.”
So, is the problem we face the need for more resolutions?
Or do we need a new sense of what we are comfortable achieving? A bigger comfort zone?
If this is you, let’s talk! You can always set up a Discovery Meeting Phone Call with me. There is no charge. We take 30 minutes to chat – I don’t sell you anything. I help you. If you feel it could be helpful to do more, you will sell yourself. SImple. So feel free to connect.